There’s nothing quite like an impending new year to make us take stock of our life and what we want and need in it.  At this time of year, it’s good to decide what you’re looking for in 2019.

Let’s Get Physical

By going through your stuff and making decisions, it can be completely life changing!

Starting with your house is a great way to kick off your purging. There are heaps of ways to go through your things and get rid of what you don’t need. The method which works for me is to put a box in each room. As you’re living, and you come across something you haven’t used in ages, put it in the box. Then, when the box is full, you can decide what to do with the contents. If you haven’t gone hunting for any of the items in all that time, you definitely don’t need them.

But, this means that you’ve a box in every room, taking up space. I’ve been doing this all year, and when I recently decided to have a very spontaneous garage sale, I didn’t need to go hunting for anything, or do any cleaning out, because I already had a box (or two) in each room. And, because items are in the room you last used them in, the boxes are automatically itemised! No need for resorting, because there’s a dedicated kitchen, bathroom, bedroom etc box. So handy!

There are quicker ways, of course, and if you’re doing a one off purge, you’ll find that going through each drawer and cupboard will bring up all sorts of items and memories. It could also slow things down, because then you have to think about whether you want to keep or chuck. It’s easy to get sidetracked that way, so you’ll need to be strict on yourself!

Emotional Connections

The next area of your life which you might need to clean out is the ‘friends’ in your life. It’s a sad state of affairs that friendships don’t always last a lifetime. And, many of us have had to face the reality that people we once treasured now don’t even feature in our top 5. You don’t have to break up with them, but if you realise that you’re moving forward with your plans, it might be a good idea to step back. This is particularly, if they’re stagnating and still whinging about the same things they’ve whinged about for the past 5 years. That kind of person (however supportive they are of your endeavours) might actually be holding you back from achieving your goals.

I’ve also found, while setting up this dating coaching business, that my network has completely changed. It’s not that I don’t like my friends anymore, but I have less in common with some of them, as new friends and connections have come into my life. My conversation has changed as I learn about business, and coaching, and some people can’t understand it all- not without me teaching them completely, and I don’t always understand it all myself yet!

Cyber World

Tackle your online world too. Go through your emails and unfollow/ unsubscribe anything you’re not getting something from. All those shops we sign up to when we’re out and about- who needs them? You probably don’t, but you just aren’t really thinking about them. But if you open your inbox and see a mess every time that makes you cringe, then it’s probably a good time for you to clean it out and only receive emails you actually want to receive.

We wouldn’t be cleaning up our cyber world if we didn’t clean out our phone. If you have a million contacts in your phone and don’t actually need them, get rid of them! Block people you don’t want to hear from, and then go through your pics and apps. Anything extraneous or painful can go, go, gooooo!

What about your dating apps? Have you had enough of them, and wading through the mess of it all? Maybe it’s time you cleaned out those which aren’t working for you, or which you don’t feel good about using. Or, get rid of them altogether and instead, make a decision to enlist the help you need with your dating life, rather than relying on the right type of person to be online when you are, with good taste (in you), communication skills which match yours, etc. Take matters into your own hands, delete the app, and step into the real world where you can meet great people and have amazing experiences instead of swiping and being swiped on. Pfft, who needs it? You need connection, especially now that you’ve ousted some of the friends who were holding you back. Out with the old, and in with the new!

By having a clear house and clear head, you’ll be freed up to date and enjoy life again!

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